Bespoke Proposals

We talk a lot here about the man’s perspective on proposing, but let’s take a moment to get the woman’s side of things. It can be a hard time, that limbo when you know the proposal is close, but you’re not sure exactly when it will happen. This period can drive women nuts... have you all heard of engagement chicken or the ever-popular Brides.com Waiting For the Ring forum? We are here to tell you that the more surprised you are, the better it will be. So, from the Type A in us, a checklist on how to make yourself feel better by preparing, while not ruining the surprise.

1. Broach the subject of marriage. This doesn't mean you should start badgering him, asking for that ring. No one wants to be that girl! We strongly believe in open communication, and there is a fine line between ruining that surprise and making sure you’re on the same page about what you want. So, have those important discussions about what you each want out of marriage, and then try your best to let him find the right time. If he needs a subtle nudge, we can help you out. 
2. Prepare for the ring. Figure out your ring size and start planting seeds of information about what you like with your friends, sisters, and moms. Mostly likely when the time comes to purchase a ring, your guy will go to those people for some direction.
3. Plan...but just a little bit. We get it, you're excited! You've found the guy you know you're going to marry, and it's fun to see what's out there. Allow yourself to browse online or chat about potential wedding plans with your girlfriends, but don't go too far. Save the fun for when it's official. 
4. Set your expectations, and most importantly, RELAX! Men decide when to propose based on a slew of factors (most of them personal to him, like if he makes enough money yet, etc.) and it can be a stressful time for them. We are as excited as you are to get this engagement on the road, but supporting him and letting him do it when he feels comfortable will pay dividends in the end. When it comes to planning the wedding, odds are that you will be the one making the decisions so let your man take the reins on this one.  

Sometimes men need a little nudge in the right direction to get the help they need. Send his email address to Elizabeth@BespokeProposals.com and she will send a subtle hint his way.